The world is watching yet another Kanye West meltdown. This time, his soon-to-be ex-wife, Kim Kardashian, and her new paramour, Pete Davidson, are the targets. Social media is taking sides and the media has seemingly reduced Mr. West’s dangerous behavior to fodder for gossip columns. Yet, for many of us, watching him emotionally torment his ex-partner is alarming, to say the least. We understand that his breakdowns are cries for help. We even understand that Kanye has some mental and emotional deficiencies. However, what we do not understand are the increased calls for Black women to be Kanye’s “peace” and to help save the situation.
Please stop dispatching your trauma patients to Black women.
Black women were not created to be the healers of broken men; especially, those who have long stopped viewing themselves as accountable to our community. Between stumping for Trump, rocking the confederate flag on his clothes, and arguing that “slavery was a choice,” Kanye has left the building. I know it gets confusing at times because he has mastered the art of brandishing cultural dog whistles when it’s convenient for him. However, a dope track layered over Black church references is simply another means of emotional manipulation. He speaks our language but is no longer ours and dispatching Black women to the scene of the crime, like Paula White calling on “African Angels,” isn’t the answer.
Black women are not obligated to respond to this crisis. In fact, Black women are tired of responding to every crisis – period. We just finished rescuing America from itself during this last election and we are drained. We have been the “ride-or-die” and the “strong Black woman” when encountering roadblocks. We’ve also been labeled the “angry Black woman” after roadblocks encountered us, but we’ve grown frustrated with all those titles. Further, who exactly are we supposed to fly in and help anyway?
There’s an adage that states, “When white women sneeze the whole world catches a cold.” Kim is very protected, and a slew of people (Black, brown, or indifferent) will rise to the occasion and make sure she is safe and covered. Does that mean that she doesn’t deserve our public outrage? No! Does that imply she doesn’t need to be protected from abuse because she is a white woman? Absolutely not! However, her privilege, wealth, fame, and power afford her a level of protection that the average woman (Black, brown, or indifferent) would never receive. Kim Kardashian doesn’t need our help.
So, with all due respect, I request that the public remove Black women from this narrative. Please assign Mr. West and his domestic and mental struggles to the community he has chosen and keep our names out of your mouths. We are not emotional mules. We’ve burned our captain-save-a-bro uniforms and our build-a-Brotha days are over.
A colored girl who walked away when the memory of old Kanye wasn’t enough.
Photo Credit: Kanye's IG page